Wednesday, November 5, 2008

My life with a brick wall

Oh wait...that's not a brick wall, it is my 13 yr old son. AUGHHH!!!!!!!!! (Sorry had to take a minute to scream!!) Just when I thought he was turning it around, those hopes have been dashed from me. I get an email from my husband this morning telling me that once again he has night school this Friday. For those unfamiliar with how night school works, usually the kiddos have a certain number of missed assignments they can "slide on", after this point is passed you are assigned night school (which takes place either Tuesday or Friday from 3:30pm-6:15pm) to complete and turn in the assignment.

I've lost track of how many he's had this year already, somewhere in the neighborhood of five to six. So today I informed him he was grounded, again, at LEAST through the weekend. Then a few moments ago one of his friends' mom calls looking for her son. They're upstairs on the computers, after he's already been told that he is grounded and his friends should be leaving immediately. When called on this he looks me right in the eyes and says "I thought it started tomorrow." WTF?!?!?! Are you serious?!?! Since WHEN has grounded started ANY TIME but immediately!!!???

So I went and got his backpack and combed through it for papers without grades. I pulled ALL of them out and checked with his missing grades online. I am SO angry that I have to treat him this way to get his shit done!!! He's missing 11 grades (zeroes in the grade book, or * for missing assignment), this is in five different classes. So I am currently handing him one sheet at a time (10 sheets I was able to find) and having him complete it and then bring it back to me. He cannot be trusted to take off with all sheets and make sure they're all done and back to me in a timely manner.

His reaction to this? "This is SO aggravating that I have to go up and down the stairs dozens of times to get one sheet, finish it, then come back and get another one."

My reaction? "Guess what, boy? The fact that I HAVE to treat you this way is aggravating to ME! you tell me time and time again that 'it'll be different this time. I'll do what is expected of me.' But then you pull the same thing every time. So since you can't seem to get your priorities straight, I'm gonna do a little straightening for you. In short, deal with it. This is how its gonna be."

Oh yeah, things are FAR from pleasant in our house right now. I'm considering breaking out the cocktails tonight, its gonna be a long one. Usually when everyone gets emotional about it we have some results rather quickly. But I think I'm out of the weepy emotions, and now its just raw anger.

Which state was it where you can drop your teenagers at a hospital and leave them there legally?

Pray for me friends, pray that I don't smother him with his unfinished papers in his sleep. UGH!!!


Christine said...

Break out the cocktails g/f at least it will take the edge off a bit. I hate having to do the tough love crap, but it is happening at our house too. Some kids just have to learn the hard way that privelleges must be earned, not just freely given.

Rubicon Mom AKA. Rubi said...

My kid isn't as old as yours, but I get the same attitude. Good to know it doesn't go away when they get older :( Hope it works out for you- but if you need help hiding bodies- I need a vacation :) LOL

Sandi said...

haha you know, I feel you. My 8 year old took soooooooo long to complete and assignment tonight. She can do it, she just doesn't want to. She dawdles and procrastinates so badly it's not even funny. We have set rules that they sit at the table and do their home the second they get home. EVEN Friday because otherwise they forget. I sometimes forget too...but we try.

Danielle said...

I feel you girl!! Caiden is so good about his homework assigments when he wants too but then again, he is a straight A student and I try not to put too much pressure on him,but he waits till the last minute, but gets it done, with flying colorings, But my Bailee, she trys soo hard to make good grades and with my help, she does great! Hang in there girl!!

Sabrae said...

Man I remember the days when I made my parents feel like that! LOL But after mom cracked down on me in high school it was straight A's after that! lol The wrath of a mom is NOT what I wanted! lol

Patrice said...

I so remember having this same fight with my mom all the time!! It's definitely different hearing it from the other perspective... good luck!!

Kristen said...

Oh I can SOOOOOOO relate!! *hugs* I'll be right over for that drink and then we can drive up to Nebraska together. LMAO

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